Setting goals are a huge part of why we succeed, but they can also be scary. When we don’t meet those goals, they can act as a reminder of failure. I’d be lying if I said I hadn’t set the bar a tad lower for myself to guarantee I met my goal, rather than challenging myself and potentially failing. There is one goal that I continually set for myself and never reach. I’ve never written it down or said it out loud, so did I really fail at reaching it? Besides…how do I measure it anyways? This goal cannot be measured or counted in pounds, inches, calories or ounces. My goal this month and essentially forever is to love myself for everything that I am and not hate myself for everything that I am not or will not ever be. I need to learn to love and accept every gray, every wrinkle, every scar and every dimple and every inch and pound of myself. This goal has become increasingly more important to me now that my daughter is 4 ½. I don’t want her to grow up with poor body image like I did. I have NEVER thought I was pretty enough or skinny enough and I picked at every imperfection I had and dwelled on it. It didn’t matter if there were people in my life who would tell me otherwise. I convinced myself that they were just saying that because they had to. She’s my mom so of course she has to tell me that I’m pretty. He’s my husband, he has to tell me he loves me the way I am. They are my girlfriends, they’re never going to tell me I’m fat. It’s a horrible cycle to get yourself stuck in and incredibly difficult to get yourself out of. I grew up watching my mom do it to herself. I remember being young and sitting in her bedroom watching her get ready as she wiggled into her control top panty hose and then press her hand against her tummy to flatten it out while standing in front of the mirror. Then she would let out a sigh and a wish to just be thin again. I’m not saying watching my mom contributed to my own poor body image, but I witnessed her struggle and I know that my daughter is already watching me. She’ll come out of her room in her favorite princess dress accessorized with her plastic ½ inch heels, beads around her neck, tiara on top of her curls and sparkly gloss on her lips and ask me if she looks beautiful now. My response is that she is beautiful all the time and that she doesn’t need all of that “fancy” stuff to be beautiful. She just just smiles and giggles and walks away with her heels clicking against the floor. She’s asked me before why my belly looks “funny” and without thinking I’ve told her it’s from carrying her and her brothers. My belly does look funny…it’s a fucking battlefield. I’ve got (4) 1 inch scars across my lower belly from where they went in laparoscopically to remove scar tissue around my reproductive organs, I have an almost hip to hip scar from where I delivered all my babies via c-section, I have stretch marks up and down my hips and belly from where I grew big healthy babies during each pregnancy and my pooch of skin/fat that just kind of hangs there. These are all things that I’ve hated about myself, but shouldn’t because they are my little battle wounds that lead me to winning my war on my infertility and evidence of the 3 biggest blessings in my life. The next time she asks why momma’s belly looks funny, I will tell her it doesn’t look funny, it just looks different and different is beautiful too. When she is older, I will proudly tell her what each one of those scars mean to me and how I don’t regret a single one of them.
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My boys are now 3 months old. They are healthy and beautiful and the most precious gifts I could have ever received. So, why can’t I fully relax and just focus on all the wonderful things in my life?
This journey to complete my family has always been a struggle. It has cost me physically, emotionally, mentally and at times made me question my faith. So, when I look back at this past year and revisit my healthy pregnancy, my textbook delivery and the incredible birth of two, strong baby boys…I can’t help but wonder when the other shoe will drop. It’s a horrible feeling and I wish I could shake it, but I feel like all of this is too good to be true. How could I get so lucky? First of all, I got pregnant with TWINS!!!! How incredible is that?! That in itself is a giant miracle. Then, I was able to carry them full term with no complications. My delivery, happened a little earlier than expected, but was a textbook cesarean. The best part, Sawyer weighed in at 5 lbs 2.7 ounces and Walker weighed in at 5 lbs 7.5 ounces. Both boys came out kicking and screaming and did not require any special care. I delivered on a Tuesday and all 3 of us were discharged on Thursday. I didn’t have to spend even a second away from my babies. Since their births, they have had excellent doctor’s visits and are growing and gaining like champs. With that said, I should have no reason to believe that I have anything but happy, healthy baby boys. All of that, though, does not stop me from questioning every teeny, tiny little thing on the boys. I felt a little bump on the back of Sawyer’s head and my mind instantly goes to the worse possible conclusion…turns out it’s just lymph nodes (totally normal). Walker’s belly button looked dark and I immediately believed something wasn’t healing right and that there was something wrong…turns out I’m just not familiar with what an “outie” belly button looks like. I can’t tell you how often I rub their heads and question if I felt a lump or any unevenness. I’m turning into the biggest hypochondriac in the world for no valid reason at all. My New Year’s resolution is to relax and accept the fact that I have been blessed and just allow myself to be happy. I don’t need to question why I was burdened with infertility or why I was chosen to be the momma to these beautiful children. I don’t need answers to those questions anymore. All I need, are tight squeezes from Poppi, gummy grins from the boys and that reassuring look from Trav that “we got this”. So, good-bye “other shoe”. I have no idea where you are or if you’ll ever drop and I’m going to stop worrying about your existence. The only shoes I’ll be focusing on, are the ones that I pick up off the floor that belong to my little army of tiny humans. These last 10 weeks have been filled with so many highs, but along with those highs has come stress and an overwhelming amount of anxiety. On the morning of February 19th, my coworker came in and asked me if my ears had been burning because him and his wife had been talking about me and about my struggle with infertility. His wife gave him a St. Gerard medal to give to me that had been given to her 18+ years ago when they began to plan for their family. St. Gerard is the patron saint of mothers and is meant to protect mom and baby through pregnancy. On February 19th, I was one day away from being able to test after my last IUI. You are supposed to wait 10 days after you take your HCG booster shot to test to ensure you don’t get a false positive. Being so close to my test date, I took receiving that medal as a sign. As soon as I got off work, I stopped at CVS and picked myself up two different kinds of test…both digital so there would be no question about whether the line is there or not. After that I picked up Poppi and drove home to take the test. After 3 grueling minutes, “YES+” appeared in the window of my test. I couldn’t believe it. I started crying. I grabbed Poppi and just held her. Then, I sprung into craft mode and Poppi and I began working on a sign to surprise Trav with when he walked through the door from work. Unfortunately, my surprise reveal didn’t go as planned…1. Trav came through the wrong door and 2. He was on the phone when he walked in, but when I finally got to tell him there was lots of smiles and lots of embraces. We decided to keep it to ourselves for a few weeks until we got all of the blood work done. I went into the office the following day and had my blood drawn, the results confirmed…I was pregnant. I followed up with another blood draw about 3 days later to make sure that my HCG was rising as it should. While I’m in the room with the nurse, another nurse walks in (my favorite one ) and she started talking about my good HCG level from my previous draw and she said that if she were a betting woman that she would bet I was having twins. My jaw hit the floor. I was literally speechless. I think the other nurse that was about to draw my blood actually asked me if I was okay. I feel like I totally gave off the wrong impression. I wasn’t in shock, because the thought of twins scared me or that I didn’t want twins. I was in shock because I just never thought that could even be an option for us. Here we were on our 21st IUI. We had a hard enough time just conceiving, let alone conceiving two at one time. I decided to keep that little nugget of information to myself for now. I didn’t want to worry Trav until we knew something for sure. My second HCG draw came back great. A week from that draw I went in for my third and final draw. Again, great results so we went ahead and scheduled our 7 week ultrasound. Since all 3 HCG draws came back strong we went ahead and told our parents and our siblings. They were all elated.
The last couple of weeks have been a loopier and curvier roller coaster than usual. I had an anniversary on Monday, January 19th. Not the kind of anniversary that you look forward to and celebrate. Like other anniversaries, it is one that comes every year, but not one you pencil in on your calendar. You don’t need to pencil it in because it is burned into your heart forever.
I started my 20th IUI on 5 January 2015. Immediately following my appointment, I went to my calendar to see when my day(s) 28 and 29 were. I usually start on day 28, so if I don’t start on day 28 I will take a test on day 29. My day 29 was January 19th. As soon as I saw this, my heart started racing…almost beating out of my chest. God welcomed my angel on January 19, 2014. I thought this was a sign. I was going to get a positive this January 19th and this day would get a new meaning for me. It wasn’t going to be so dark and dreaded for me anymore, because I would be able to celebrate life beginning on this day. During my two week wait, I was so hopeful. I just thought that this was meant to be. Finally, I was within just a few days and I got super anxious. By day 28 I was going to the bathroom every 30 minutes to check to see if my visitor had arrived. I had made it through day 28 and I still wasn’t having any immediate signs that I was going to start. I had the day off for MLK Day and I was meeting some of my girlfriends for lunch. Right before I left, I started cramping. I went to the bathroom and I was spotting. I totally lost it. I pulled myself together long enough to meet my friends and not be the “Debbie Downer” during our sushi lunch. When I got home, I just cried and cried. When Trav called me on his way home, I completely broke down and I continued to cry all night long. I did the usual, “Why me?, Why now?”. The only thing that does is make me more depressed. Luckily, I don’t have a lot of time to dwell on my latest disappointment because I have to start thinking about my next treatment cycle. I went for my baseline ultrasound on January 22nd and jumped right into treatment cycle 21. I love the staff at my fertility office. I really feel like they are rooting for me and genuinely care about me as a person. Each time I have an IUI they all tell me they’ve got their fingers crossed for me and when I come back for my next baseline ultrasound because the treatment didn’t work, I can see a look of disappointment on their face. This last time I went in, my nurse joked about how she needed two hands to carry my chart and how I would soon become a “2 charter”. She totally meant well and was trying to make me laugh. The truth is, it was just another reminder of how long I’ve been doing this and the amount of times I’ve put myself through this disappointment. My 8 inch thick chart is documentation of my 21 IUIs, my 18 negatives, my cysts that hold me back from treatment, my miscarriage. It tells my story from the day we got our diagnosis to now. It also holds the first ultrasound pictures of Poppi. It isn’t all bad and I believe there is still time for my story to have a happy ending. After some time and reflection, I accepted that no matter what happens on January 19th from here on out, it will always be the day I miscarried. Even if I would have gotten a positive that day, it would still be the day in 2014 that I lost my second child. Nothing will ever change that. I will never forget that day, because it’s not meant to be forgotten or replaced. Early last week Poppi was sitting on her changing table and I was getting her dressed. She looked at me so serious and said, “my heart hurts” as she put her little hands on her chest. I kissed her “boo boo” and asked her why her heart hurt and she was just kind of quiet. A few seconds passed and then she says to me, “I want a sissy”. It took everything I had to not completely break down in front of her. Was my pain and heartbreak resonating on her? Could she feel what I felt? I gave her a hug and told her momma was trying and the next words out of her mouth were telling me she wanted to wear her boots. That made me smile. I have no idea what triggered her to say those things and I have no idea if the two comments were related in her mind. Maybe I didn’t even hear her correctly. What I do know, is I’m going to keep moving forward. I’m going to keep getting treatments and I’m going to do whatever it is I can to grow our little family. As of right now, it seems like Poppi supports that idea. Although we will see if things change when there are a pair of tiny hands reaching for her prized possessions. October was not meant to be my month. On day 3 of my cycle, I went in for my baseline ultrasound where I was defeated once again. During the ultrasound the nurse found a large cyst that prevented me from proceeding with treatment this month. So…not only did I get a big fat negative, but now I have to take an unwanted month off from trying to conceive. Some people need to take breaks from this insanity, but this insanity is in a way part of what keeps me sane. During months that I’m going through treatment, I have hope and hope is everything. When I have to take months off due to cysts, I get a little depressed and I allow myself to feel defeated. Even though we still have like a 1-3% chance of conceiving on our own, I don’t feel very confident with those odds. I mean, we have a hard enough time conceiving with medical intervention! This isn’t my first run in with cysts. Out of 18 treatment cycles I’ve had large cysts arise 3 times. My second encounter back in July landed me on active birth control for 4 ½ weeks before they finally shrunk down to under 10 mm. Even though they are very common, they typically occur once out of every three treatment cycles, it does not make it any easier to deal with. Lucky for me though, they aren’t painful and they don’t require any draining. There is a silver lining!
I completed my 18th IUI a week and half ago. I’m about three quarters of the way through the grueling 2 week waiting period to find out if this will be lucky number 18. The first two weeks of a treatment cycle kind of fly by, because you are constantly on a schedule and always looking towards your next shot, your next ultrasound, your next blood draw, your next procedure etc. Once the IUI is complete, the waiting period begins and you have nothing to do, but let your mind wander and boy does my mind wander. Sometimes I wish I could just turn it off and coast through the wait.
First, I begin thinking about the day I find out… Monday, October 6th is day 28 of my cycle and the day I will be instructed to take a home test. I found out I was pregnant with Poppi on January 6th. So, maybe this is a sign? Maybe the 6th is a lucky day for me? If I were to find out I was pregnant on October 6th, my due date would be at or around July 17, 2015. That would be mine and Trav’s 5 year anniversary. That would be such an amazing anniversary gift! Maybe this is another sign? Once I’ve finished obsessing about the above coincidences, I begin planning how I would tell Trav and when and how we would tell our family and friends. I picture Poppi in the classic “Big Sister” t-shirt and I contemplate the idea of a gender reveal party. I revisit my ongoing list of baby names that I continually update in the notes section of my phone and speculate whether Trav and I will have as tough of a decision as last time. I wonder if he or she will look like Poppi and whether they will be best friends. I think about the need to upgrade my single stroller to a double and visualize my backseat with 2 car seats. Now, as if all of that doesn’t drive me crazy enough I begin the stage where I resist over analyzing every cramp, ache, bout of nausea and many more “symptoms”. I used to regularly Google “early signs of pregnancy” and think that I had EVERY sign. I don’t Google that phrase anymore; mainly because I’ve done it so many times I know EVERY sign of early pregnancy. I also know that those could all be signs of your impending cycle. The funny part for me about over analyzing the early signs, is I felt none of those when I found out I was pregnant with Poppi or when I found out I was pregnant with Baby V # 2 and in the back of my mind I suspect my next time around will be the same. So, even though I know better than to do this, it is almost impossible to keep your mind from going there. I feel like it is a constant internal battle between what my mind knows and what my heart wants. A lot of the time, my heart wins. I picture my heart as this hopeless romantic. It doesn’t matter how many times it breaks, it still holds out hope time after time. My mind is the rational one; it is the little cricket on my shoulder that brings me back to reality. The more I allow myself to invest in the dream that this is the month, the harder the blow is when I find out otherwise. Even though it hurts, I’m grateful that I’m still hopeful. This process can easily numb you and even after 18 cycle months that have resulted in 15 negatives and a miscarriage, I still have the strength and hopefulness in my heart to try again. That’s not to say though, that if I don’t get my desired positive on Monday that I won’t be curled up in a blanket, shedding a few tears. After my short pity party, I’ll gather my composure and call the doctor to schedule my day 3 ultrasound and start focusing on the next treatment cycle. And then…I’ll do this all over again. BUT, lets hope this is lucky number 18 ;) I love tattoos. I got my first one a few months before my 18th birthday. My mom took me and my BFF to a tattoo shop in Dayton to get our first tattoos. She is not a fan of them, but she knew that if she didn’t take me now, I would get one while I was in Panama City Beach, FL during my senior year spring break. She was right. I turned 18 while I was down there and had full intentions of picking the first seedy tattoo shop that I could find. She figured since it was going to happen one way or another, she felt better knowing where I was going and what I was getting. Before I went, I didn’t really have any specifics. I wanted a “tramp stamp” and I wanted a butterfly. Duh!! What 17-18 year old girl didn’t want that in the early 2000’s. So, I walked into the tattoo shop and started flipping through the flash until I found something that I felt totally confident having emblazoned on my body for the rest of my life. Needless to say, my “tribal butterfly” was covered up by a much more meaningful and thought out tattoo. About 5 years later I went through a major transition in my life. I met someone at WSU. He really opened my eyes to what it was like to feel happy and to feel beautiful and wanted and needed. I was entering the unknown and starting completely over with someone I barely knew. I decided to celebrate the milestone with a koi fish and cherry blossoms. The koi fish is known to represent strength and the cherry blossoms stood for beauty for my new found confidence that this amazing man had given me. Three years later I married that man I met at WSU and I got an anchor tattooed on my foot to represent my commitment to him and our new life. I chose the anchor because we were married on a beach at Indian Lake, so I wanted something nautical. Plus, I viewed it as anchoring down where I was meant to be. So, after I miscarried I needed closure and I couldn’t think of better therapy than to get a tattoo. I had thought a lot about this piece. My faith waivered more than I would like to admit after my loss, but I found my way back. I wanted this tattoo to remind me to relinquish some of my control and allow myself to be guided. I chose a ship’s wheel and a compass and the words “guide me through my chosen waters”for my side. I also added a gladiolus which is the flower of August. After about 3 ½-4 hours, it was complete and it was beautiful. When I got to the car, I cried. Not because my side was raw and I had been sitting in an uncomfortable position for almost 4 hours, but because I really felt like I was closing the door and truly accepting my loss and moving forward. One of the most special parts about my tattoo, was the fact that it was partially funded by my very best friends. For my birthday, my girls got me a gift certificate to my favorite shop so that I could get this beautiful piece of forever art. They knew how bad I needed it and it was their way of letting me know that they are always there to support me and encourage me in everything I do. I love them for that. Now, every day when I get dressed I look at my tattoo and I think about my amazing support system and I think about my journey and I day dream about what is up ahead. Everyone grieves differently. For me the sting of tiny needles penetrating my skin and the buzzing of the tattoo machine is my therapy. I would encourage everyone out there who is grieving to find their therapy. Take a trip or treat yourself to a spa day. Check something of your bucket list or if you don’t have a bucket list yet, create one. Learn something new or pick up an old hobby that you haven’t touched in awhile. Whatever it may be, do something for YOU. This week was as hard as I thought it was going to be. August 12th was a day that I was so looking forward to and it seemed so far away, but I was okay with my 40 week journey to get there. I was going to cherish every moment because I knew that this pregnancy would be my last. On January 19th, I stopped thinking of this day as a monumentous occasion and began dreading it with every fiber in my body. I was 10 weeks and 5 days into what would have been my second and last pregnancy. I was so close to being out of the danger zone, but when I woke up that morning, before I even made it to the bathroom I knew that my worst fear was coming true. I was losing my baby. It was the worst gut wrenching pain I had ever felt and I’m not even talking about the physical pain. I didn’t just cry, I wailed. I heard sounds come out of me that I didn’t even know that I could make let alone ever let anyone else hear them come out of me. For days, weeks and even months I didn’t think that I would stop crying or stop hurting or ever be able to feel like a normal human being again. My entire world stopped, but everyone else’s kept moving and I didn’t know how to fit in anymore. I felt so broken and I felt like everyone else could tell or knew that I was broken too. I felt so isolated. I didn’t want to laugh or smile or even attempt to have a good time, so I didn’t want to put myself in any situation where I may have to attempt to enjoy myself in public. All I wanted to do was silently scream at God and ask, “Why me?” I was able to come to grips with the medical reason for why it happened, even though I had previously seen the baby on 2 ultrasounds and heard a perfect tiny heartbeat both times. I understand that there was most likely a chromosomal abnormality that prohibited the baby’s development. I get
that. What I couldn’t grasp…was why me. I thought that I had been through enough. In late 2010 we were diagnosed with infertility. We were told that we had less than a 3% chance of conceiving on our own and that our only real shot at conceiving would be through hormone treatments and intra uterine inseminations (IUI) or in vitro fertilization (IVF) procedures. This was exceptionally defeating, but I made my mind up quickly and decided that I would do whatever it took to have a baby. I began daily hormone injections and had weekly blood draws and weekly ultrasounds to monitor my body’s response to the medications and to pinpoint the best time for the insemination. It was grueling and it sent me through the ringer emotionally, physically and mentally but I knew what my end result would be and I knew it would be worth it. So, after 12 months and 10 IUIs I finally got the positive result I had been hoping for and on September 19, 2012 our little Penelope was born. All babies are tiny little miracles and ours was no different. In July of 2013 we went back to the doctor to try for baby #2. Poppi wasn’t even a year old yet, but we had no idea how long it would take us to conceive this time around. To our surprise, we conceived after 5 months and 4 IUIs. I literally thought I was the luckiest girl in the world. Not only was I over the moon about being pregnant again, but I was also ecstatic about being done with fertility treatments. No more injections, no more blood draws, no more planning my whole life around doctor’s appointments and procedures. We were going to be done. I got a positive test on December 5th, the day after my very best friend got a positive for her baby #2. I was beyond excited. I was going to get to experience what it was like to be pregnant with two of my best friends and get to share every cramp, twinge, craving, food aversion, cankles, bloating swollenness etc…you know all the good stuff. We had even discussed maternity picture poses to do together that we found on Pinterest. I had blood work done once a week for the next two weeks to monitor my HCG and it was rising just like it should have been. Around 6 ½ weeks I went in for an ultrasound and got to see the tiny little bean on the screen and hear the heartbeat. That is literally the best sound in the world to a new mother. You lay there holding your breath until you hear that beautiful sound. At week 9, I went for another ultrasound. Again, I saw my baby’s development and heard that wonderful sound. I left that appointment feeling confident and overjoyed. This pregnancy was going just like my last one. Unfortunately that confidence and happiness was shattered not even two weeks later. I had my doctor paged around 7 AM that morning after seeing the blood and he tried to keep my calm and give me other reasons for why I may be seeing this, but as the day progressed it got worse and worse and I had Trav drive me to the emergency room. After a little waiting and some blood work, they took me for an ultrasound. I didn’t even hold my breath waiting for the sound of the tiny heartbeat to break the silence in the room…I already knew. Everything after that, is just a blur. I was being handed pamphlets and prescriptions and lots of “I’m sorry”. All I wanted to do was go home and begin my grieving process and figure out how I was going to tell my closest friends and family. All I knew, was I wanted to do it quickly and all at once…like ripping off the band aide. The fewer times I was going to have to relive this, the better. My friends and family were sympathetic and gave me the space that I needed. I had a lot of time to reflect and ask myself the hard questions like “Why did this happen?”, “Can I go through this again?” and “How do I get through this?”. My hardest question to answer was whether I would be able to put myself back in a position where there was the possibility of going through this pain again. I kept thinking about whether I would be okay with having one baby and whether there would be a time I would regret that decision. I have a beautiful, happy and healthy baby girl…should I stop while I’m ahead? Should I take this as a sign? Maybe God is telling me to stop. Someone I know who is also battling infertility had made the decision with her husband to not go through with any treatments. She thought that maybe she was testing fate or in a way “playing” God and that if she went through with something that wasn’t originally in her cards, that she could get dealt a hand that she wasn’t prepared for…like a baby with a disability. So, was I doing the same thing? That leads me to “Why?”. I can’t tell you how many people told me the same line, “Everything happens for a reason”. It’s a tad cliché, but it is true. Finding that reason, though, was the hard part. I desperately needed to find that, I needed to make sense of all of this. In the following weeks and months while wallowing in my own self pity I could only find one explanation, I was only partially responsible for my destiny. I believe that my path has already been paved for me and it is what I do with the curves, speed bumps and pot holes that are thrown in front of me that I control. I made a vow to myself to accept my infertility and accept my miscarriage and own it, but not let it define me. For a loooooong time I was very silent, almost secretive about my infertility. It just isn’t something that comes up in conversation while hanging out with all your friends. Especially when 3 of them just announced their pregnancies after only trying for 1 month! I didn’t want to be the buzz kill at the party talking about my angry ovaries and barren uterus. So, instead I buried all my feelings. All of the extra hormones surging through my body from my daily injections, not only gifted me with an extra 40 lbs of plumpiness, but it also took my emotions to new heights and not in a good way. I literally felt like I was losing my mind. I didn’t look like myself, I didn’t feel like myself and I sure as shit didn’t act like myself. The worst part, I couldn’t explain it. One night I literally started crying because while I was peeling a potato I dropped it. I cried over a potato hitting the floor. I was changing. I was changing into someone that not only I didn’t recognize, but my husband didn’t recognize either and we would get in arguments over how distant I was being. I was even accused of having an affair. I can’t even begin to explain to you how hurtful that was. The worst part wasn’t my husband thinking I would betray him or our marriage, it was that I didn’t even realize I was doing it and I didn’t know how to explain my behavior because I didn’t have any control over my body or my mind. I could not comprehend what was happening to me. I was having a hard time finding joy in anything. I was 100% consumed by my infertility. It was always on my mind and it seemed like I was always reminded of the fact that I was baby-less. Every baby shower invite I got…I cringed, every Facebook post announcing a pregnancy…I got spiteful, every new baby bump at work...made me want to scream. I had become empty, bitter, callous and just plain angry. I needed a new outlook. My girlfriend’s baby boys were on their way and I made a conscious decision to turn that jealousy into something positive. I was going to love those baby boys and be the best aunt I could be to them…and that is what I did. I also started talking about my infertility and began allowing people to ask questions. I found that I was not alone. There were people out there just like me, going through the same erratic and unexplainable emotions and having the same guilt as I did for feeling that way. I was finding people that needed me as much as I needed them. For the first time, I was accepting my infertility and accepting the fact that it was a part of me whether I wanted it to be or not. I was starting to see the answer to my “Why?”. Maybe I was meant to help people with their struggle with infertility, by going through it myself… Maybe it is the same answer for why I miscarried… Maybe I am meant to help even one person with their struggle with a miscarriage… The only way I can do that though, is by putting myself out there and talking about it. I have to take down the walls and allow myself to be vulnerable. So here I am! My name is Jenny and I am a wife and a mother. My husband and daughter along with the rest of my family and closest friends are the most important things in my life. Pizza, peanut butter and reality TV are my guilty pleasures. I love country music and outdoor concerts. I love flip flops and being anywhere near water. I battle infertility and I have an angel baby that I will someday meet again. Above I pondered whether I would be able to try again and I decided that I could and that I would keep trying until I was holding Baby V #2 in my arms. So, my journey is not over. A new chapter is just beginning. |
Jenny VI am a wife and momma to a beautiful baby girl named Penelope and twin boys, Sawyer and Walker. I have diagnosed infertility and am sharing my "dirty" little secret in hopes to help someone else with their struggle. Categories
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